There are two mental states that must be appeased before a person will voluntarily stop smoking. These elements are called “Desire,” and “Decision.”
DESIRE: A want, crave or a wish for
DECISION: Making up of one’s mind / a verdict or judgment
In order to stop smoking, a person must have a DESIRE to stop. You probably want to stop smoking, at least some part of you does, or you wouldn’t be reading this article.
In addition, in order to stop smoking, a smoker must DECIDE to give up the addiction. Since you haven’t broken your smoking habit, it simply means that you have not DECIDED to break the smoking habit yet.
So what you need is to feel a strong motivation to make a “DECISION” to break the smoking habit.
MOTIVATION, we all want it. The foundation of each of our motivations is what we accept as true. Think about it, if you didn’t have a belief that you could get hurt if you jumped from a tall building, then you would not experience motivation to be wary. If you did not believe that the gnawing sensation in your stomach meant that you were hungry, you wouldn’t feel motivated to eat.
When it comes to giving up an addiction to smoking cigarettes, people who are addicted to smoking cigarettes need to feel a tremendous amount of motivation to make the DECISION to quit. Motivation is based on the ideas that we believe. So you will need to DECIDE exactly what thoughts would motivate you if you believed them. Because when you feel powerfully motivated, you will stop smoking.
Thanks to NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming) and self-hypnosis for motivation, it is a lot easier to learn how to believe these new ideas than you think. However, you don’t believe the ideas that will motivate you to stop smoking at this point, or you would have already stopped smoking cigarettes.
For the purpose of this discussion, we need to define a few words.
DOUBT: Uncertain/distrustful/dubious - “maybe it’s this way, and maybe it is not.”
BELIEF: Trust/faith/tenet - A state of mind free of all doubt. In other words, belief means, “this is the way that it is.”
HIGHLY VALUED CRITERIA: What is most important to you, as an individual humanbeing.
When you believe that if you continue to smoke your highly valued criterion will be in jeopardy, you will feel the motivation that you need to stop smoking. We call this is a negative motivator, because it is a belief that motivates by providing you with terrible sensations. Negative motivators are great for getting you to make decisions.
When you believe that if you do break the smoking habit, that which is most important to you will become enhanced, then you will also feel the motivation that you require to stop smoking. This is a positive motivator, because it motivates you by promising good sensations if you break the smoking habit.
The first task is for you to DECIDE what the most important things in your life are. Your most highly valued criteria are usually things that you cannot see. For example: Money would not be highly valued criteria, but the freedom, fun, or security that money can provide would be highly valued criteria. Write your list of highly valued criteria down on a piece of paper.
Next you need to conclude what you will need to believe to feel motivated to stop smoking. Here is the good news, sort of: Logic has nothing to do with belief. Things don’t have to be logical for you to believe them. As a matter of fact, they rarely are. So do not worry about logic!
The format for your negative motivator beliefs will be: “I believe that if I continue to smoke, something bad will happen to my most highly valued criteria.”
Make sure that you frame your motivators in the positive. In other words, always state what you want or what will happen. Never state what will not happen. Eliminate the “not” word from the beliefs.
In this example we will say that your children’s health is your most highly valued criteria.
WRONG: “I believe that if I continue to smoke, I won’t be doing my kid’s health any good.”
CORRECT: “I believe that if I continue to smoke, my secondhand smoke will make my children sick.”
Next, create a list of positive motivators. “I believe that if I stop smoking: (something very important will be enhanced).”
WRONG: “I believe that if I stop smoking, I won’t give my kids cancer.”
CORRECT: “I believe that if I stop smoking, my children will be safer because I’ll eliminate their contact with the dangers of my secondhand smoke.”
The next step is to change the computer codes in your brain to make yourself actually believe these motivational ideas. Now for a shocker: Your beliefs have nothing to do with or what is real. Instead, your beliefs have everything to do with what your perception of reality is. In other words, it has a lot to do with the way that you see things.
Our belief systems are located in our unconscious mind. The uncouscious mind is like a computer. Computers do not reason. What goes in controls what comes out. To demonstrate, I want you to think of anything that you already believe without the slightest bit of doubt. Make it a belief that makes you feel good.
For instance, it’s easy for most people to believe that they love their children. If that is true for you, make a mental image that makes you feel that feeling of love.
I’m going to ask some questions, and there aren’t any right or wrong answers.
Is your mental image a moving picture, or a still?
Is it in color, or in black and white?
Is it close or far?
Is it focused or fuzzy?
Is it normally bright, overly bright, or dim?
Is there a border on it?
Is it borderless?
Is it a panorama?
It does not matter what your answers are, write them down on a piece of paper. These are the computer codes that your subconscious uses to indicate your feelings of belief. In this case they are the codes for positive belief, because you have chosen a belief that gives you an excellent feeling. You have just calibrated your positive belief.
Every positive belief picture is bright and focused. If yours aren’t, then you probably do not really have total belief. An element of doubt is probably present. So find another belief to calibrate.
If you think of something that you are unsure of, and you make a mental image of it, one or more of these computer codes (which we call submodalities) will probably be different. Similarly, if you have a belief that gives you a bad feeling, (a negative belief): one or more of those codes or submodalities will be different.
In Neuro-Linguistic Programming we call these particular computer codes visual submodalities.
Now you will need to calibrate a negative belief. So repeat the same exact process, but do so using an idea that you already believe, that makes you feel terrible.
Once you’ve calibrated your positive and negative beliefs, it is a simple affair to manipulate what you believe so you can motivate yourself to DECIDE to quit smoking.
So, to summarize, using the above example: “I believe that if I continue to smoke, my secondhand smoke will ruin my children’s health.”
1. Sense how motivated you feel to stop smoking.
2. Make a mental image that illustrates the above belief.
3. Adjust the codes (visual submodalities) of the image to match the mental codes from your calibrated negative belief image.
4. If you are right handed, move your eyeballs (and your mental image) up to your left and hold it there for five seconds. If you are left handed, go up to the right. This will make you quickly memorize the belief.
5. Now become aware of how motivated you feel to stop smoking. Do you feel more motivated? Do you feel less motivated? Or are your feelings the same?
Using this proceedure you can make yourself believe almost anything by making a picture in your mind that illustrates your new idea and then adjusting your mental image so that it matches your calibrated belief images.
And if you have a belief that is holding you back, you can use the same technique to change that belief to doubt by changing one or two of the submodalities and memorizing it that way.
Now that you can motivate yourself to DECIDE to quit, you will stop smoking. A DECISION to quit means: I’m quitting no matter what. If you are similar to most, you will not want it to feel the pain and you do not have to. Because there are several hypnotic techniques that can greatly reduce, or even completely eliminate all of the discomforts of withdrawal from the smoking addiction. And you can read about them in my library of unique hypnosis articles.
(c) 2007 By Alan B. Densky, CH. This document may be re-printed as long as it is not altered and the author’s name and clickable web address are retained.
Alan B. Densky, CH. offers NLP CD’s for smoke cessation. He is the developer of the Neuro-VISION(r) Video quit smoking hypnosis technology. It received a United States Patent because of its uniqueness and effectiveness. Mr. Densky can be reached through his Neuro-VISION web site.
- Alan B. Densky, CH