Desire, Decision, Action - How To Quickly Get Rid Of Harmful Behaviors

Did you ever try to get rid of a negative behavior, only to be unsuccessful? There is list of ordinary problem behaviors that people often try to change or get rid of using hypnosis. The most common are: Overeating and weight loss; stop smoking; quit chewing tobacco; stop nail biting; increasing self-confidence; overcoming insomnia and sleeping better; improving memory; and managing stress.

WHAT THE MIND CAUSES, THE MIND CAN CURE: The motivation for our behaviors starts in our thoughts. When you stop and think about it, all of these destructive behaviors are the result of negative thinking. In other words, you think and motivate yourself into all of these behaviors. Or at least you think yourself into feeling stressed, and that can be the origin of these behaviors. And since you think and motivate yourself into these behaviors, you can think and motivate yourself out of them. In order to think and motivate yourself out of these negative behaviors, you will need to know the “Motivation Formula For Success.”

DESIRE: You are possibly reading this editorial for the reason that you want the motivation to make some personal changes. And that’s opportune because the first element in the “Motivation Formula For Your Success” is that you must want or desire to change. If you have read this far, at least some part of you wishes a change.

BELIEF IS REQUIRED FOR MOTIVATION: Before anyone can alter a negative behavior, that person must be motivated to do so. Merely wanting a change is not sufficient.

Our motivation comes from what we believe. If we believe that something very important to us will get better or “become enhanced” if we make a change in our behavior, then we will feel motivated. Conversely, if we believe that something very important to us will be in jeopardy if we don’t make a change in our behavior, we will also feel highly motivated to alter our behavior.

Some straightforward examples of these motivational beliefs would be:

If I take some weight off, then I’ll be able to find a lover.

If I kick my smoking habit, then I won’t have to worry about cancer.

If I stop biting my nails, then my hands will be a lot prettier.

TECHNOLOGIES THAT CAN CREATE THE BELIEFS THAT LEAD TO MOTIVATION: NLP - which is short for Neuro-Linguistic Programming, offers methods that can immediately produce the element of belief. You can learn more on this topic by reading the articles “How To Get Motivated To Exercise Using Hypnosis And NLP” and “Motivation Theory - How To Quit Smoking Using NLP And Hypnosis For Motivation.” These articles are both available in my free hypnosis research library.

DECISION: The dictionary defines the word “Decision” as making up one’s mind / a verdict or judgment. When you believe a thought that gives you a powerful feeling of motivation to alter your behavior, you will feel a compulsion to make a decision to eliminate a negative behavior. Decision is the key that unlocks the door to compelling action.

ACTION: The dictionary definition of the word “Action” is an act or deed / to do or perform. When you take action it means that instead of just thinking about making personal changes, you will actually take action and bring about your desired changes.

SELF-TALK: One of the many reasons that most individuals fail to change or eliminate a negative behavior is because of how they talk to themselves. Self-talk is vital because time and again it is part of what caused the negative behavior in the first place.

I’d like you to think about this for a moment: Let us say that you want to stop smoking. Probably the first thing that you are likely to say or think to yourself is: “I’m not going to smoke anymore.”

It’s common for people to tell themselves what they aren’t going to do. Unfortunately, when we tell ourselves what we aren’t going to do, we are actually programming ourselves to do it!

SELF-TALK EXERCISE: Say the following to yourself: I can’t see blue. I can’t see polka dots . . . . . . .

I’ll bet your mind showed you the color blue, and then it showed you polka dots. That’s because when we tell ourselves what we aren’t going to do, in order to make sense of it our mind must make a movie of us doing whatever it is that we want to stop doing. And when we see ourselves participating in a behavior, our mind gives us a compulsion to create that behavior.

SUMMARY: In order to eliminate a negative behavior, we must first want or DESIRE to get rid of it. BELIEF is the element that leads us to MOTIVATION. MOTIVATION is the drive that compels us to DECISION. DECISION is the key to ACTION. Neuro-Linguistic Programming is a technology that we can use to facilitate beliefs, motivation, decisions, and actions.

When we tell ourselves what we aren’t going to do, we make a mental picture of ourselves in the behavior that we want to modify. And that mental picture gives us a compulsion to generate the negative behavior. So if we want to abolish a negative behavior, instead of telling ourselves what we won’t do, we must always tell ourselves what we will do.

To stop smoking say: “I can live without them.”

To abort cravings for fattening food or to quit chewing tobacco say: “I can live without it.”

To eliminate stress say: “I’m relaxed and calm, both mentally and physically.”

To fall asleep quickly and overcome insomnia say: “I fall asleep promptly, and sleep soundly and restfully throughout the night.”

Alan B. Densky, CH is certified by the NGH. He runs the Neuro-VISION self-hypnosis CDs website and the Self-hypnosis Video Blog. He offers Hypnosis CDs for motivation. Visit his website for his free downloads of hypnosis & NLP MP3’s, newsletters, and his hypnosis research library.

- Alan B. Densky, CH